Over the years I've heard two disparate comments that could be used to sum up such a scenario:
- A verbal agreement is not worth the paper it's written on.
- "An honest mans pillow is his peace of mind." Minutes to memories (Wisdom from a weathered 77 yr old retired steel-town dude on a Greyhound Bus).
The thing is, ever since I realized I had inadvertently been making a close study of Dads and kids, I've witnessed the same point hammered home time after time. PERSONAL INTEGRITY COUNTS. I can guarantee that a colleague who isn't trustworthy at work doesn't become a saint after hours. It doesn't matter that you are not at home when you lie. It doesn't matter that the kids didn't see you. Personal integrity is a constant meter, ticking back and forth and recording your life. It's a readout of the state of your heart. Somewhere, somehow, your integrity chart will go public. That's when it matters.
Need further reading on the importance of integrity? Try Proverbs.
-Everyone screws up. Don't make a habit of it.